Be Jennifer (Lopez) and Not Jenifa(As portrayed by Funke Akindele of Popular Nigerian series Jenifa’s diary)- Sultan Kamal Abdulazeez
I revisited my oldies playlist while i did my chores and was in Euphoria of beautiful melody, lyrics and rhythm (Songs were twice as nice then than they are now. I also think Music has lost it’s essence). Artist such as celine Dion, Back street boys, Diana Rose and Gloria Gaynor played in no particular order but it was this song “Love don’t cost a thing” by Jennifer Lopez that captured my attention. Don’t get it twisted all had incredible messages and the melody were Angelic but this captured my attention because it had a message that needed to be seen or revisited by most especially our Ladies this days because of how they build themselves and the way they make themselves to be seen by Men.
I have known this song for over a decade and a half and i have memories attached to it (Like my uncle driving me to school and playing it on the Car Radio, it was his favourite).But just today, i listened to it differently.
TARGETED EXTRACT FROM THE LYRICS
“You think you gotta keep me iced
You think I’m gonna spend your cash
Even if you were broke
My love don’t cost a thing
Think I wanna drive your Benz
If I wanna floss I got my own
Even if you were broke
My love don’t cost a thing.”
“All that matter’s is
That you treat me right
Give me all the things I need
That money can’t buy yeah”
“When I took a chance
Thought you’d understand
Baby credit cards aren’t romance
So you’re tryna buy what’s already yours
What I need from you is not available in stores
Seen a side of you that I really feel
Doing way too much, never keep it real
If it doesn’t change, gotta hit the road
Now I’m leaving, where’s my keys?
I’ve got to go”. End
The Lyrics of this song is beautiful and Powerful as you can see. Its not the rhythms scale that makes it so but Jennifer Lopez’s assertations to her Lover i understand. This is in contrast to what alot of ladies can say to their partners today because they are over dependent on them as they have sort or added little values to themselves hence becoming enslaved in relationships. They do not have a fall back plan even if their relationships is hell, they can’t leave it no matter how toxic it may be. This is so because alot of them use their partners success to cover their frailties. You see most ladies looking to get married as soon as they realize their weakness and feel they can’t accomplish what they set out to achieve.
Those assertations from Jennifer Lopez are beautiful, powerful and yet scarcely seen this days as alot of ladies are overly dependent and have added little or no value to themselves hence they can barely stand on their own. If you work as hard, you will be respected by your spouse and it wouldn’t be as difficult to leave a toxic relationship. I see alot of sisters suffer as a result of this. The ground for your relationship will also be levelled and will thrive through genuineness and not one that a partner will suffer when he/she disagrees of the others wrong doing. You will be of huge significance if you can support your family in ways you can.
We should please all seek to add values to ourselves so we dont need support ourselves to stand firm instead of always needing crouches to stand even if you can stand on your own without it.